The Fall of our Neighbors – and the Rise of Collective Sight  

Brutality continues to rain down on U.S communities, at the hands of Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) and Customs and Border Patrol (CBP), and millions of people, for the first time, are grappling with the prospect of becoming targets of state sponsored violence for simply walking down the street.

People cry, “this isn’t us!” or, “these aren’t the values we were raised with!” Their confusion seems genuine. But what did they think before? And why are they feeling this fear just now? The flood of outrage came when, in the last two weeks, a white woman, and then, a white man, were shot down in cold blood – martyred by our government. Prior to Renee Good’s and Alex Pretti’s tragic deaths, many Americans didn’t realize what their country was capable of.

I see the storm of anger and calls on social media. The mainstream media coverage of the crisis in Minnesota surpasses that in Charlotte, North Carolina; Los Angeles, California; even Chicago, Illinois. I welcome how thoroughly Americans are rejecting the violence perpetrated by ICE & CBP. But although our collective eyes are opening, I’m concerned we may still have a blind spot.

A common exchange I see unfold: White people rightfully express shock, disgust, terror – the stark emotions that come with seeing their fallen neighbors – innocent bystanders, attacked seemingly for the entertainment of armed federal agents, whose superiors absolve them of their crimes and deny observable facts. Department of Homeland Security (DHS) leaders even compel them to violence by calling peaceful bystanders domestic terrorists. People correctly rage that this is sheer madness, law enforcement gone off the rails – emerging totalitarianism.

Almost in lockstep, Black Americans remind us that this outrage, this spine chilling fear, is nothing new, but something Black people have long endured in America. They ask, “Are you listening now,” since people have not always heard, much less protected them from, all the discrimination, neglect, setups, slander, smears, or horrors they’ve been subjected to by authorities. The same can be said for most indigenous peoples.

Their point is an important one – it shouldn’t take the murder of whites to shatter our collective silence on state-sponsored violence. If we learned anything from movements for Black lives, the callous disregard for human life by those entrusted as protectors should not come as a shock. And yet, as true and painful as this refrain is, it only reveals one part of our blind spot.

In the very center of the tornado of hate ripping through American cities since 45 first ascended, then again last year, all too often, we neglect to see and say the names of the very people being targeted – immigrants, asylum seekers, and refugees.* It’s almost as if our blind spot renders them invisible.

But I can’t unsee it. Because my husband of nearly 25 years was previously ‘undocumented’ in the U.S., I have lived almost every national news cycle related to ‘immigration’ since 2001 by his side. Ironically, our relationship began a few weeks after 9/11, and the actions taken by the federal government in the wake of that crisis literally led us to where we currently stand.

The Patriot Act, passed in the aftermath of 9/11, resulted in the creation of DHS, parent to various agencies. Some were new, like ICE, others were repurposed, like CBP, and U.S. Customs and Immigration Services (USCIS), the functions of which originated with the INS – Immigration and Naturalization Service. Their budgets ballooned, under both GOP and Democratic leadership, and as politics are fueled by increasingly polarized and financially motivated campaigns, these agencies have only grown more powerful.

Throughout this entire onslaught of federal agents in our communities, it is rare to hear from the people targeted. Cases are mentioned on social media, now even in the mainstream. But directly hearing migrant voices has not been the norm. In their path to a better life and contributing to American society like all immigrant communities before them, the immigrants themselves — the lived experiences of the actual people under siege — are poorly represented in our discourse.

There are clearly many reasons for this, primarily their own safety. But the shadows that shield migrants also isolates them from the national narrative. Invisibility breeds unfamiliarity, and neighbors struggle to identify with them. When migrants’ voices are not central to the stories told about them – we risk objectifying them, making the perception of their humanity at even greater risk. This becomes dangerous when language is weaponized against them.

Migrant is a confusing term, because it’s used to describe both peoples who’ve emigrated from all over the world, as well as people native to the regions they move within, whether their home or destination countries’ racial, ethnic, or cultural purity tests recognize them as such. How the first peoples of a continent are called “aliens” in their own lands is a paradox of our time.

Whether we keep using the terms given us, or whether we create a better lexicon for this longstanding debate about the border, we must always remember the targets of immigration policy, laws, racial and national quotas, DHS, ICE, CBP, and their abuses. They are our neighbors, our coworkers, our friends. In many cases, they are our own family members, or our partners.

Our migrant neighbors may be new to our local community, or maybe we are just newly aware of their presence. Their cultures or ancestors’ histories may predate our own, or carry even more ancient legacies of conquest and oppression than those of our relatively young nation. To more accurately represent reality, we must avoid a U.S.-centric black / white dichotomy, and strive for multicultural fluency. Local mutual aid groups and national coalitions embody this principle on the daily, and when their efforts bear fruit, communities become truly safer.

Those who agree that America is so much more than white, black, and Main Street USA, even those of us working at ground zero, still have room to grow. What if we (safely) centered the voices and experiences of the most vulnerable among us? Is it naive to think that we could better identify with them, and there would be equal outrage for their deaths or displacement as well? Could we be more effective at preventing more tragedies?

Once we clearly see how much immigrants are targeted by law enforcement, how disproportionate this is to actual crime statistics, how much funding and infrastructure has been earmarked for this (far beyond our domestic carceral system), it is hard to look away. Our surprise dissolves, and we can even propose solutions. We can decriminalize migration and embrace it as a human right, disincentivize detention, do away with bloated enforcement agencies and their budgets, or more.

I fear that the tendency to exclude migrants’ faces and voices for so long has led us to an even more precariously vulnerable position, now that the criminalization of migration and the detainment machine has grown to a scale near impossible to tame – a sort of Frankenstein that’s escaped mainstream concern as long as the violence was directed at the border, in detention centers, or abroad. Now, its insatiable hunger has set its sights on its own sponsors.

But once we’ve seen through the tear in the veil concealing the monstrosities, what will we do? Will we simply allow it to be stitched it back up again? Or will we remove the veil, confront the nightmares our beloved country is causing, and get to work righting these injustices and giving the world’s children a future worth hoping for?

*For purposes of this essay, I use the term migrants, when referring to immigrants, asylum seekers, and refugees.

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What’s behind Biden’s action on undocumented spouses? A million love stories. 

By Nicole Salgado and Nathaniel Hoffman

Love is one of the main drivers of migration, and it always has been. As a new Biden administration executive action providing legal relief to hundreds of thousands of undocumented spouses of American citizens rolls out, it is essential that we recognize the million beautiful love stories behind the policy.

Across the United States, for decades, American citizens have been forced underground, exiled abroad and separated from their spouses for a surprising reason. Most people assume that if you marry an American citizen, your vows convey the right to citizenship. Our book told the stories of American citizens, including Nicole, who fall in love with undocumented immigrants only to find themselves trapped in a legal labyrinth, stymied by their country’s long exclusion of their partners. This Biden policy will finally correct some of this tragic story.

Our 2013 book, Amor & Exile, documents the stories of modern couples who made tough decisions to be together despite our broken immigration laws. Some chose to stay in the U.S., risking one partner’s deportation on a daily basis. Some were separated by the government. Other families, including Nicole’s, chose exile, leaving the United States for 16 years to live together abroad, trading their citizenship and comforts of home for relative security.

Announced on the 12th anniversary of Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals (DACA), which offered some stability for people who came to the U.S. without documentation in their youth, this new policy promises to be a life-saving intervention for hundreds of thousands of American couples. And unlike with DACA, which is temporary and has proven legally unstable, the new Biden policy allows spouses who are undocumented to “parole in place” – an ominous-sounding term that means they can stay and work, and have a chance to adjust their status and to eventually become U.S. citizens. It has been successfully applied to military spouses who are undocumented.

All of this is clearly a welcome move for many mixed-status families. But it’s not perfect, comes way too late, and would still exclude many of the couples in our book, including Nicole and Margo. It also does not make up for the fact that the Biden administration has continued to militarize the border and further chip away at the right to asylum, including in the language of the executive action announcement itself.

Andrea Flores, a former administration official and vice president of immigration policy at Fwd.US, told the New York Times last week that there could be 1.1 million couples stuck in this limbo. Some organizations place this estimate at up to 2 million. But the administration’s announcement estimates that only about 500,000 will qualify under this new action. And in fact, many of the couples in our book would not have qualified, as their partners had not been in the U.S. for the required decade, or they may have other bars that exclude them from the relief.

Still, it’s a smart political move and it will definitely change the lives of hundreds of thousands of American couples, including the lives of their children, their extended families and their wider communities. Many of these families include DACA recipients as well, giving them a new option for a more permanent status. 

In May 2001, then-President George W. Bush wrote to the Speaker of the House asking for an extension of 245i, a section of the immigration code that allowed undocumented people who were otherwise eligible for a visa – including a marriage visa – to apply from within the U.S., rather than being forced to return home and face a 10-year or permanent ban from the country. 

“Dear Mr. Speaker: I am a strong proponent of  government policies that recognize the importance of families and that help strengthen them. To the extent possible, I believe that our immigration policies should reflect that philosophy,” Bush wrote.

The 245i extension passed both houses of Congress and the House scheduled a debate to resolve differences with the Senate bill. That date was September 11, 2001.

Needless to say, the bill never passed. Since that fateful day in 2001, the U.S., a nation founded by immigrants, has become an increasingly hostile place for migrant families, even though 9/11 had nothing to do with our family immigration system – all of the 9/11 attackers flew to the U.S. with tourist or student visas. 

The Biden administration is restoring a bit of dignity, a real sense of security, and a great chance at a future together to half a million American families with this action. That’s over a million love stories to be told. Let’s hear all of them, together, as a nation.

Salgado and Hoffman are the authors of Amor & Exile: True Stories of Love Across America’s Borders. In the book, Salgado tells her own story of exile with her formerly undocumented spouse. Hoffman, a former journalist, documents the stories of mixed-status marriages in the U.S. This essay represents their individual views.

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America is, at its heart, a nation of immigrants.

In our book, Amor and Exile, we told the stories of American citizens whose lives spanned two nations because of their love for their partners from abroad. Their love rose above immigration laws, and their families have persevered in the face of increasingly punitive policies. In a world of migration and shifting borders, love, compassion, and respect for each other serve as bridges between nations and cultures. We, like many others, believe that spirit should remain at the heart of our foreign and domestic policy. Let’s reject hate, reach out to our neighbors, and embrace our roots as a nation.

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The Amor and Exile Thanksgiving Tour

Nicole and Nathaniel are traveling on the East Coast of the United States over the Thanksgiving week with book events in Baltimore and Syracuse. On Sunday, Nov. 24 (tomorrow), two synagogues in Baltimore — Chizuk Amuno and Beth El — will co-host a 2 p.m. discussion with Nathaniel, who grew up in Baltimore and attended school at Chizuk Amuno through middle school. The event will be followed by a dessert reception.

Nov 28, 2011 New Yorker CoverOn Wednesday, Nov. 27, Thanksgiving Eve, Nicole and Nathaniel will host an immigration discussion in Syracuse, New York, at the Jefferson Clinton Hotel in downtown Armory Square. Details of the event are on Facebook; the hotel is located at 4:16 S. Clinton Street in Syracuse and starts at 7 p.m. Nicole grew up in Syracuse and will be attending the event in person, a rare joint appearance by the authors of Amor and Exile!

More Amor and Exile events are scheduled for February and March in Boise, including the first Amor and Exile Book Club discussion and the launch of a new local writers series in Boise. See our calendar page for more details and please let us know if your book club is reading Amor and Exile!

The authors are available for book club discussions anytime via video chat and are eager to discuss the book with organizations that have an interest in immigration policy, journalism, memoir writing and self-publishing. In November, the City Club of Boise hosted Nathaniel at a salon-style conversation at the home of Bill and Nancy Russell, a wonderful forum for discussing the immigration issues of the day.

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